About Me

I have lived in south Dakota, all of my life. My family is here, my roots are here. While I don't spend alot of time with "family", we always manage to bond together, when times get tough. Gunnar's death is more proof, of that.I also have a huge family of friends, and this "family"also pulls together, in a heart beat,when necessary. My parents live about 70 miles away, my husbands parents live about 7 miles from our house.

Saturday, December 29, 2007

Thursday, December 27, 2007


I've been struggling, with the words, to write, about this years Christmas Eve. Perhaps I stated it best, here
what I didn't add, there, was I had a little bottle of crown royal, in my pocket, and before I left, I did my ''shot'' and left the bottle for the next visitor, to share.

Sunday, December 16, 2007

Christmas Wishes 2007

then go here, and listen to this song, A SOLDIERS MOM
wishing everyone a safe and happy holiday season, and a better year, in 2008.
love you, all!
gunnar's mom

Wednesday, December 05, 2007

Thursday, November 15, 2007

I am a Soldier

go here.............


turn up your speakers.................

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Thank you!!!

to Gary and Kay Shafer, Kim Shafer-Swank, at Shafer Monuments, in Mitchell, SD. They are responsible, for the new addition, to Gunnar's headstone...the candle is so beautiful!! THANK YOU!!!
If you look close, there's an eagle, on the left, and a pheasant on the right of the headstone........and, as for the pumpkin......that's what happens, when it rains too much, and stays this warm, in October, in South Dakota. I wandered down to Hinker's ,and picked up the replacement pumpkin, yesterday. I'm going out, to ''fix'' it, this afternoon.

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Just Danny and Me

and Danny, and Kern, and Paul.
Enjoy your R&R, Danny....and always know,
we love you..........ALWAYS!(huggs), mom

Memorial Sights.......

Somehow, we trudge along, thru life, and we continue to live. our life....it changed forever, 13jan2005. life as we knew it, ceased to exisit. we started over. our good friends, have stuck it out, with us, their support continues, and for that we are so greatful......i hope you all know how much you are appreciated, and loved.........and most of you know, about the kids listed below......


Saturday, October 13, 2007


if you've read the comments, on "Pumpkin Slayer", .......it

It hit me hard. Another kid, with Sanborn County ties, gave his life, in Iraq......Sgt. James Holtom...
I'm still trying to find out if these boys were in the same kintergaten group.....i'll let you know.....
So, anyway, yesterday, i found myself, ''wandering'' to the cemetary. took some new pictures, good enough for now. i need to go out, in the rain, this weekend, and clean the stone, better. I didn't take enough water, yesterday....
Gunnar got a chuckle, while I was there, I went to change the flowers in the vase, and discovered wasps had themselves a home!!!!!!!
And, yes,that is a BIG Budwiser beer bottle........one big one, instead of everyone leaving small ones..........right, guys?

Monday, October 08, 2007

pumkin slayer

memories of pumpkin seasons, past!

1/2 brother 1/2 friend

Jesse and Tara got married on Saturday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!The pictures I took inside the church didn't turn out very good.....but Gunnar would have been very impressed by the caliber of ''firearms'', that were presented, before hand!!!!!!!!!
A memory candle was lit on the alter, for Gunnar, and another one flickered, for Tara's Aunt, who passed away this summer.
BEST WISHES to Mr. & Mrs. Jesse Huber!

Saturday, September 29, 2007

email reminder

"The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you."
thank you, Rhonda, for the reminder.......

Friday, September 28, 2007

To Realize

To realize
The value of a sister
Ask someone
Who doesn't have one.
To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly Divorced couple
To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.
To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.
To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
Who has given birth to
A premature baby.
To realize
The value of one week
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when
You can share it with someone special.
To realize
the value of a friend or family member:

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

where were you---9/11/2001

I was in Aberdeen south Dakota, doing what i was doing, back in those daze....selling melons...as in watermelons.......i was at the ''stand''/business....watching the morning news, doing the ''wound'' care to my ankle(s), when the plane struck the 2nd tower.........OH! MY GOD!i was 2hours away from home, no vehicle......hell the burns on my ankles were really raw, yet, i could wear clogs, but nothing else that resembled any type of shoe..(i didn't wear shoes, until 14 nov, i remember, because it was my dad's birthday..the burns were 3rd&4th degree, and the injury happened on 24june...........
9-11....it was a very very slow day, in the produce business, and how the time dragged on, until my kids finally called me, that they were home from school......long, hard day, for them, tooo.........we were only 120 miles apart/ away, yet it felt like thousands of miles...........i rember feeling that very same distance/feeling, alot of times while Gunnar was in iraq..........and i still feel it, often.......the helplessness...the ''there isn't a damned thing i can do to change this'' feeling of despair, that hits me when i least expect it......it absolutely takes my breathe away.......and i can't start breatheing, until i've started crying........like just now..........


Monday, April 09, 2007

Easter 2007 slideshow


Friday, March 23, 2007

What it means...................

What it means, To be an American

To believe in the promise
Of a better tomorrow,
And stand united in our efforts
To give a peaceful nation
To our children….

To honor
Each other’s differences,
And cherish the richness of our history,
Even as it continues to unfold
From sea, to shining sea…

To love deeply
Our friends
And Family, day by day,
And never take for granted
The privilege of calling ourselves

Copyrite AGCInc

Friday, March 02, 2007


was the title of a book the kids used to like to read durring August........it's still snowing, and the wind blowing, and we keep shoveling....we are at the 18'' mark.....snow banks/shoveled area 4' high, in many places.i can't thrpow the snow high enough, to land to top of the ''bank''

Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Walk with Me Wednesday

Cyndy, over @ Riverrim, does this on her blog, alot, so i thought this was a good day, to join in...only, there wasn't much walking....just scooping....like every two hours...how high can you shovel snow???

Saturday, February 24, 2007


Well, here we go...it's 35 degrees and raining, and the weatherman is predicting ''about'' 10 inches of snow, here in the James River Valley, before this system moves out, tomorrow afternoon......so, from past experiences, i'm turnin up the heat, filling water jugs, making a big pot of chili, and loading the generator in my wagon, and bringing it into the garage, so it will be warm, if we need to start it............rain will turn to sleet, and the Wman is talking 50 mph winds,...
the rain is melting the snow we already have, so that helps..........

Wednesday, February 14, 2007


Gunnar, and many others, deployed, from Vilsec Germany, to Iraq, on this date...I had one hell of a phone conversation, with my son, that day....we spoke of power of attorney & death, and a huge promise, from me....''Don't forget, Mom, if something happens to me, over there, i wanna be an organ donor''....................i didn't have the guts to say, that's pretty hard, when you're in a warzone......

Tuesday, February 13, 2007


Thursday, January 13, 2005

To be strong

If you want to be strong, be patient, thoughtful and understanding. Anyone can be rude, but it takes real strength to be kind and polite.
If you want to be strong, be persistent. Enduring strength does not come in an instant, but is steadily built over time.

If you want to be strong, get in the habit of taking action. The strongest people are those who act while others only talk or wish.

If you want to be strong, be humble. Put your focus on doing, rather than worrying about getting credit.

If you want to be strong, be joyful. When you enjoy what you're doing, you are far more effective.

If you want to be strong, be yourself. The real strength you have is in the authentic person you are.

-- Ralph Marston

Saturday, February 10, 2007

once in a while

you need to ''dress up''(??) and go do something FUN!!in a church!
THANK YOU, and Best Wishes to Jared and Rebecca!.......So, we did....i forgot the camera, so i can't post a picture of the bride & groom, but, here's us.........

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

busy days

and busier nights......my ''company'' for a few dayz.......and yes chitty chitty bzang bang is the movie of the week!!!!!!!!!

Tuesday, February 06, 2007



take the time to check this out.......debey

Sunday, February 04, 2007

2nd try


A special Project

Once, again, God gives me friends, just when I need them the most! Thank you, Pam, At Iraq War Today, for the information in yesterdays email...

I wanted to let you know about a project I'm working with one of my adoptees on. In part, the project, for me, is about Gunnar. I posted about him today, and wanted you to see it. You can view it at:


I am speechless...and we all know hat REALLY doesn't happen, OFTEN!.......

Monday, January 22, 2007

Happy Birthday

To my bouncing Baby Boy, born 22 yrs ago
8lbs 8oz.....
Named....Gunnar Duane Becker
10 months old in photo.......
note: he was wearin the Big RED ONE, already then.....

Sunday, January 21, 2007

When Bloggers meet

in early November, we had company....yep! Erin and Scout...and their 3 dogs, of which, I can only remember Lewis's name..............they managed to arrive on opening weekend of deer season....and, what good sports....got up early, froze their asses of, and kept my husband company.........thought i'd post this picture.....the deer was Corey's (another friend) once-in-a-lifetime! hunting experience!


i'm hanging in here,.......
thanks to everyone, for the phone calls, emails, cards and prayers, as we trudge thru this 2nd anniversary........my life has been blessed, with many very good friends, and i am grateful.